Most people get married believing a myth that marriage is a beautiful box full of all the things they have longed for: companionship, intimacy, friendship, etc. The truth is that marriage at the start is an empty box. You must put something in before you can take anything out.
There is no love in marriage.
Love is in people.
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Oh, the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person: having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words, but to pour them out. Just as they are – chaff and grain together, knowing that a faithful hand will take and sift them, keep what is worth keeping, and then, with the breath of kindness, blow the rest away.
Dinah Maria (Murlock) Craik, 1826-1887
What does a person want?
I believe, as one of Jan Karon’s books is so aptly titled, we want to be somewhere safe with somebody good.
But what does that mean?
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Our great desire is that you will keep on loving others as long as life lasts, in order to make certain that what you hope for will come true. Hebrews 6:11
Lifelong love is harder than it sounds.
There’s a reason why many marriages and relationships don’t last. Love requires vulnerability, and this invites the possibility of being hurt.
You may have experienced hurt from having loved someone, but you have probably also experienced the unconditional love of others.
Continue reading “i held out hope.”
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