“The lovely flowers embarrass me,
They make me regret I am not a bee –”
~Emily Dickinson, 1864
“For flowers that bloom about our feet;
For tender grass, so fresh, so sweet;
For song of bird, and hum of bee;
For all things fair we hear or see,
Father in heaven, we thank Thee!”
Ralph Waldo Emerson
Hush now, as our gardens prepare to go to sleep…
sleep well dear blooms, until next year we doeth meet.
hugs n’ blessings to all who’ve cultivated God’s beauty this summer & to those who’ve captured their images to carry with us throughout the dormant months ahead.
“Bloom where you are planted!”
The Bishop of Geneva, Saint Francis de Sales (1567-1622) is credited with the quote, “bloom where you are planted.” Later Mary Engelbreit made the phrase popular.
I truly feel like the transformed pumpkin each time I am near one.
No wonder it was the flower at my wedding
and every birth of my children
and all the Mother’s Days there-after!
Not to mention, I am quite certain my family will know
which flower should be at my wake!
(giggles.)
One of the fondest memories I have of the Gardenia was on our Wedding Day some 30 years ago, walking down the aisle of St. Joseph’s Church with my cascading bouquete of Gardenias clutched tightly in my hands! The elderly women in attendance commented how, “We could smell the gardenias as you walked down the aisle toward your groom!”
And I do so very hope it will be the same with Jesus one day!
As an eternal bride, with her favorite flower, headed toward her beloved Bridegroom…in Heaven. AndI do verily hope He will be just as pleased by the fragrance, as I process toward Him.
But first, by the grace of God,
I have a few more Gardenias here in this earthly worldto enjoy!
This potted miniature-gardenia plant was gifted to me by two very dear friends for my 50th birthday celebration!
Last count it had 48 gardenia-buds waiting to burst into bloom!
These two Gardenias, outside our sun-porch, were purchased during a “surprise-BOGO” at a local nursery! Lucky me!
The Gardenia’s are beautiful this year because of the unusually high-humidity we have had during the summer months. I wish I could explain the giddy-feeling I have each time I walk outside from the sunroom and am struck by the heavy-aroma from the fresh blooms! My joy is especially heightened, as this is the first time I have ever been able to wear a Gardenia, tucked in my hair or behind an ear, without needing to purchase it from my favorite people at Allburn’s Florists.
I have done a lot of research on preserving my potted bushes during the cold Northeastern US winters; however, saddly it doesn’t sound promising. My research also suggests “even if” you are successful in nursing the bushes through the winter months indoors, it is difficult to get the bushes to rebloom the following year.
Can you hear my sad-sighs?
However, as I am learning this new knowledge of the Gardenia it has helped me to appreciate the gift I’ve been given with these 3 ‘make-me-smile’ bushes even more! What a blessing to remember how important it is to fully embrace the joy which is given to us in the moment...for we never really know if we will always have it in our midst.
Yes, God is constantly teaching me!
Whether it is through the wave of a magic-wand,
the surprise of an unexpected sale,
the heat of an unusually humid summer,
or a favorite flower readily available to be tucked in my hair…
life should be appreciated fully (in the) NOW.
And praise be, He allows the fragrance from the joy to linger with us,
even when it’s gone.
A dried Gardenia from Mother’s Day 2016
3hugs n’ blessings for all the pumpkins turning into carriages in our everyday lives!
“Some things in life cannot be fixed. They can only be carried.” Megan Devine
Loss can be difficult.
Loss can be tragic.
Loss can be life-giving.
And no matter the emotion which binds itself to our loss
ultimately,
loss comes with grief.
“When Jesus saw her weeping, and the Jews who came with her also weeping, he was deeply moved in spirit and troubled; and he said, “Where have you laid him?” They said to him, “Lord, come and see.” Jesus wept. So the Jews said, “See how he loved him!” John 11: 33-36
As blogger Tim Lawrence explains, while grief is a powerfully personal experience it is important to surround ourselves with those who know how to grieve with us. Especially, in those areas of loss where we have no control over it.
“Personal responsibility implies that there’s something to take responsibility for. You don’t take responsibility for being raped or losing your child or having a terminal illness. You take responsibility for how you choose to live in the wake of the horrors that confront you, but you don’t choose whether you grieve. We’re not that smart or powerful. When hell visits us, we don’t get to escape grieving. The irony is that the only thing that even can be “responsible” amidst loss is grieving.”
“If anyone avoids you amidst loss, or pretends like it didn’t happen, or disappears from your life, you can let them go. If anyone tells you that all is not lost, that it happened for a reason, that you’ll become better as a result of your grief, you can let them go.”
I have witnessed and walked-through grief many times through my volunteer work with hospice.
From the young-at-heart to the youngest of age, grief takes root.
The blessings I have received as a result of tending to the needs of those journeying through the final stages of this life on earth and the needs of their loved ones has taught me much. I have spent months with some and only hours with others, yet consistently the gratitude expressed comes quite simply from “just being here with us.”
“The ones who helped—the only ones who helped—were those who were there. And said nothing.
In that nothingness, they did everything.
I am here—I have lived—because they chose to love me. They loved me in their silence, in their willingness to suffer with me, alongside me, and through me. They loved me in their desire to be as uncomfortable, as destroyed, as I was, if only for a week, an hour, even just a few minutes.
Most people have no idea how utterly powerful this is.
Are there ways to find “healing” amidst devastation? Yes. Can one be “transformed” by the hell life thrusts upon them? Absolutely. But it does not happen if one is not permitted to grieve. Because grief itself is not an obstacle.
The obstacles come later. The choices as to how to live; how to carry what we have lost; how to weave a new mosaic for ourselves? Those come in the wake of grief. It cannot be any other way.” Tim Lawrence
What do we offer to those who are grieving?
Tim pulls from his own personal experience with grief and explains so beautifully what I myself have found to be true.
“When a person is devastated by grief, the last thing they need is advice. Their world has been shattered. This means that the act of inviting someone—anyone—into their world is an act of great risk. To try and fix or rationalize or wash away their pain only deepens their terror.
Instead, the most powerful thing you can do is acknowledge. Literally say the words:
I acknowledge your pain. I am here with you.
Note that I said with you, not for you. For implies that you’re going to do something. That is not for you to enact. But to stand with your loved one, to suffer with them, to listen to them, to do everything but something is incredibly powerful.
There is no greater act than acknowledgment. And acknowledgment requires no training, no special skills, no expertise. It only requires the willingness to be present with a wounded soul, and to stay present, as long as is necessary.
Be there. Only be there. Do not leave when you feel uncomfortable or when you feel like you’re not doing anything. In fact, it is when you feel uncomfortable and like you’re not doing anything that you must stay.
Because it is in those places—in the shadows of horror we rarely allow ourselves to enter—where the beginnings of healing are found. This healing is found when we have others who are willing to enter that space alongside us. Every grieving person on earth needs these people.”
And so I ask you quite humbly, to be one of these people.
You are needed more than you know.
And if you find yourself in need of one of these people,
find them.
I guarantee they are there.
Just waiting
to
simply,
quietly,
authentically,
be there
for you.
hugs n’ blessings to all those seeking to be found & to those waiting there for you.
“The pain that you have been feeling can not compare to the joy that is coming.”
hugsnblessings 